Baking Up Your Perfect Relationship

I don’t know about you guys, but I absolutely LOVE baking! Obviously, I love eating what I bake (even though I wish I didn’t!), but I love the actually baking part too. I enjoy cracking the eggs and beating them, I like to whisk the liquids and stir the dry ingredients, and I absolutely love spooning the mix onto the baking sheet or into the designated pan (that is when you get to taste test!). Y’all are probably thinking, isn’t this a blog about healthy relationships? Why is she blabbing on about baking a Bundt cake or something? I know this may seem like a stretch, but the development of a relationship is kind of similar to the process of baking. Ok, now you all are thinking, “This girl is crazy!” but, please, try to go with me here.

First things first…What do you want to bake? Cookies, muffins, cake?

Relationship terms: What type of person do you want to be in a relationship with? Tall, short, man, woman, jock, studious?

Next…What ingredients do you need? Eggs, butter, milk?

Relationship terms: What makes up the type of person you want to be in a relationship with? Family-oriented, caring, outgoing?

Then…Mix up the batter. Add this, take this away, and stir it up.

Relationship terms: Meet the person. Go on dates, try new things, and get to know one another.

The next steps are…Does the batter have the right consistency? Did you make it right? If yes, pour it in or scoop it out and give it a try. This is where I start to get really impatient; you might even want to check in on it once in awhile to see how it is coming along.

Relationship terms: You have worked hard at developing this relationship, is it really what you want? If it is, go far it! It is important to keep in mind that things may get tough, you might get impatient or think why did I do this, be patient and think things through. Also, take time to check in with one another about how the relationship is going.

Finally…ENJOY!

Relationship terms: Healthy relationships are really great, enjoy being together!

Remember: It is important to decide who you want to be in a relationship with and what characteristics that person should have. Usually, what you put in is what you get out, so if you work hard and know what you want (and stick to that) you will find a very fulfilling relationship.  

-Julianne McLane

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