Have any of you seen that new TV show on NBC? It is called “Perfect Couples” and it is on Thursdays at 8:30/7:30 Central Time. I got such a kick out of it! It is about 3 couples, one being “normal” and the other two being really eccentric or extreme. It is really funny, but made me think about what a “normal” relationship is, and that is kind of what the show was hinting at.
What do you think a “normal” relationship is? Ask your friends, co-workers, and family members, are their ideas different from each other and yours? Probably! As a researcher, we often talk about things “on average”, but that does not mean relationships have to fit into a pretty little box. It is okay to be different, more romantic, less adventurous, home-bodies, or travelers.
What is important is what makes the both of you happy. Sometimes you may need to talk to your partner about what makes you both happy as a couple, and that is okay! By talking about your relationship, you create a “shared meaning.”
Important clause here: This does not mean abusive or unhealthy relationships are okay!!! Being treated badly by another person is never alright, and always an indicator to examine things more closely and maybe talk to a professional.
So, when you are comparing yourself to the “perfect couple” next door, remember why you are with your partner, what you do as a couple that makes you happy and that your love does not have to fit in a box. Who would want to have “on average” love anyway?
-Julianne
What's Happening at ACHMI 
Leave a Reply